SPOILER ALERT! The plot of the movie will be discussed.
At one point in this 1968 film, Patricia Neal’s Nettie
Cleary asks her son, Timmy (Martin Sheen), “What can I say that will make you
believe me?” Given the amount of mistrust among the family members in this
story, it is a difficult question to answer. The story, based on Frank D.
Gilroy’s Pulitzer Prize - winning play, is full of emotional avoidance,
manipulations to gain affection, and jealousy stirring up the Oedipal stew.
The movie opens with an already awake Nettie, looking sad,
apparently just waiting for the appropriate time to get out of bed and start
her day. She looks over at her still sleeping husband, John (Jack Albertson in
a supporting actor Oscar-winning role). We know right away that there are
intimacy problems, since they sleep in separate beds, and Nettie’s nightgown
shows less than if she were wearing sheet metal armor. As we follow her through
the apartment, we get information through the images shown us. There is a
banner that reads “Welcome Home Timmy.” We see a military uniform on a hanger.
There are remnants of a party. But, we are not shown the celebration. We are
introduced not to the joy of the homecoming, but to trying to deal with the
hangover feelings of the day after the party. Thus, the mood has been set.
When John does get up he is alone for a bit, looks at his
son’s uniform and touches it, looking proud. But then he does something curious
– he tries on the Army jacket. We immediately sense that there is some jealousy
about not having had the chance to be in uniform himself. So, there is this mixture
of affection and envy involving his feelings for his son. Later, John, on the
ride to the family lake house, admits that he regrets that he was never tested
on the field of battle, and so he will never know if he would have met that
challenge. He was not free to pursue a military career because he had to take
care of his impoverished family. This admission shows a bit of insecurity which
the audience would not otherwise suspect existed in his bombastic character.
Nettie and John immediately exhibit
the tension between them, but not by talking directly about their relationship
problems. They instead exhibit their anger by arguing about how to treat Timmy
(a name that sounds like what you would call a child, which is what Nettie
wants to have her son remain, needing his mommy). He says he has to leave for a
business meeting. She chastises him for abandoning their son the day after his
return from service. John says that he and his son hit off so well at the party
that there is nothing wrong with him leaving for a bit. She then blames her
Irish husband for allowing Timmy to drink too much, and that the result was
that he was sick during the night. She emphasizes that it was she who held his
head while he had to vomit. Again, by indirection, she is saying that it was
John’s fault that Timmy was sick, and it was his mother
who has to sacrifice sleep to clean up after the mess John caused. This idea of
self-sacrifice at the expense of self-enjoyment is key to understanding
Nettie’s character. John then counters by saying that she stunted his
development by doting on him, never allowing Timmy to grow into a man. John
basically accuses her of keeping him a boy, and it was leaving her for the Army
which was the best thing for him. His jealousy of her relationship with Timmy
is shown when he says that she criticizes him for leaving, but she really wants
time alone with their son. In essence, Nettie has a double-win – she can accuse
her husband of being unfeeling about leaving for work, and also have Timmy to
herself. He reveals his resentment of the mother-son relationship when he says
that she can’t wait so that she and Timmy can talk about him behind his back.
When Timmy wakes up he starts to
say in the three years since he has been away, his father has changed. He
wonders what has caused him to look older. Nettie dismisses talk about John,
wanting to make the most of her breakfast time with her son. But, she feels
crestfallen when he forgets that the waffles she is making is his favorite dish,
and starts to cry when the batter sticks to the grill. She becomes angry at Timmy
when he repeats one of her husband’s saying, “Bless and save us, said Mrs.
O’Davis.” She is horrified that he is acting like John, who she does not want
to see her son turn into. She laments that “Nothing is right.” On the surface
she is talking about the breakfast, but is actually referring to their lives. When
she holds onto his hand too long, Timmy recoils at the inappropriateness of it,
but then covers up his aversion with a joke. Timmy tries to cheer her up by
saying he was looking forward to having a dance with her the day after he came
home. He puts on some music and they dance. This scene definitely Oedipal, as
they talk like two people meeting at an impromptu date. Nettie stumbles while
dancing, and quickly pulls down her skirt that rode up a bit. John, changing
his mind, enters the apartment, like a husband finding his wife cheating on
him.
John decides to take a ride with
Timmy to the lake house which he promised to do earlier. Of course, this spoils
Nettie’s plans, and she and John, again using Timmy as a way to battle each
other, jockey over whom will have custody over him for the day. Nettie says
that their son is expected to visit her mother, and the disabled cousin,
Willis. When his name was brought up earlier by his mother, the audience could
see dislike for such a visit on Timmy’s face. The son decides to take the ride
with his dad, adding symmetry to the story as Timmy is first given time with
his mother, and now with his father. John shows himself to be a complex
character here. He praises his son for his service, but is also disappointed to
hear that he did not do anything heroic. But, he admits that given Timmy’s
unpromising childhood, he underestimated his ability to get through his hitch
in the military. He also shows his generosity to his son (which contrasts with
his penny-pinching when it comes to his wife) by offering to help pay for his
college education. Timmy kids with him, pushing him to reveal how much money he
has. Here we see John’s not being upfront about his assets, as he becomes upset
by his son’s probing, which emphasizes the lack of familial trust. But then his
softer side is seen when he waxes romantic, remembering how taken he was when
he met his future wife. She looked refined, and his less fortunate family
contemptuously called her “The Lady.” He smiles as he remembers her dressed all
in blue. But, the color evokes sadness, undermining the memory.
John says that Nettie’s father, now deceased, would
always buy her roses for her birthday. Timmy buys roses, and then tells his dad
to say the flowers were from him. Here Timmy, like his parents, although well
intentioned, is being manipulative and deceptive. He does the same when he
tells his mother what a great dancer she is after her disappointment about his
lack of enthusiasm for breakfast, and when he keeps reassuring his father that
he would have been a great soldier. When Nettie returns from her visit to her
mother’s, she is overwhelmed by the gift. Instead of just being happy for the
roses making his wife feel good, John gets a gleam in his eye that indicates he
hopes Nettie may be willing to have sex with him. Nettie distances herself when
she sees how he is looking at her, not able to consider the enjoyment that
intimacy might bring, but also seeing the look of selfishness in John’s eyes.
The family goes out on the town to
celebrate Timmy’s homecoming. They go to a club, and John is persuaded to sing a
song. When Timmy says that his dad connects with an audience, his mother takes
it as a criticism of her for not allowing him to pursue his performing dreams.
Again there is mistrust seen behind every statement, as if one family member is
always trying to undermine another. These people are so used to not communicating
that they misinterpret innocent statements. Nettie goes to the restroom, and
John is not sure why she looks upset. He asks Timmy, who again obscures the
truth, just saying she had to go to the bathroom. Then a woman with whom John
was seeing on the side approaches them. She leaves once he introduces his son.
He covers it up by saying she was someone he once knew and couldn’t even
remember her name. Timmy, realizing what’s going on, makes an attempt at
honesty by saying, “I understand.” But, his father won’t be forthright with him
and says he doesn’t know what Timmy is talking about.
When they return home and Timmy
goes to bed, Nettie goes on again about the roses. Her mistrust of John comes
out because she continues to question what would make him do such a sweet
thing. He now applies more pressure about wanting sex, grabbing her from behind
and pawing her body. She is outraged, and confronts him this time without
evasion about his “whores.” He grabs her in a sexually assaultive manner.
Again, she is honest when she says that what is wrong with the two of them
can’t be fixed by Timmy being at home. She continues this change to frankness
by saying that when she saw the roses it stirred something inside her that she
thought long dead. For her, it is a loving affection for her husband. But, he
turned it into lust. Here we have the stereotypical portrayal of the male as
only interested in sex, and the woman wanting romance, but it does fit this
story since it deals with Nettie’s lack of being able to enjoy herself. John,
guilty about saying that the roses were his idea, and probably also because he
now wants to hurt his wife for her rejection of him, admits that the roses were
Timmy’s idea. Nettie is so upset, she throws the vase holding the flowers onto the
ground, shattering the possibility of romance. But, it also symbolically means
smashing the lie on which the phony attempt at intimacy was based.
The next morning, John resumes the
pattern of evasion by directing the anger for his wife toward his son. He
verbally assaults him by saying he didn’t accomplish much as a soldier and really
had it easy with his veteran’s benefits. He berates him for not practicing his
Catholicism, demands that he accompany John to mass, and after Timmy agrees to
go, says God doesn’t want someone that has to be dragged to church. He
deliberately tries to get a rise about him by using an ethnic slur about Jews,
which almost causes Timmy to hit his dad. Of course, John is angry at his son
for having convinced him to say the roses were his idea, given the disastrous
results of the night before. Nettie uses the situation to gain favor with Timmy
by saying that he is a grown man and has the right to make his own decisions
about religion.
But after John leaves for mass,
Timmy acts like a true Christian as he voices his understanding of his father’s
behavior. He is now willing to face the truth about his family. He tells his
mother that they have to stop the alliance they have forged for years of
“always ganging up on him.” He asks her if she ever saw things through her
husband’s eyes. She fought John about the lake house and going to Brazil for a
great business opportunity. Nettie scoffs at these acts, and keeps talking
about the need to help her mother take care of Willis, who she calls a cripple,
but who, as Timmy points out, seeking to have his mother confront the truth,
has mental problems. He also admits a truth about himself, which is that he
resented her taking him every Sunday to spend a depressing day with his
disabled cousin. He basically tells her that, unlike her, he won’t now
sacrifice himself for “the cause.” He realizes he may have gone too far, and
apologizes for being cruel.
But, his words cause Nettie to seek
time alone for herself. She leaves the apartment with the coins she has been
saving, her monetary independence which she finally cashes in. Before she goes,
she says to Timmy, “Thank you for the roses,” revealing her knowledge of the
truth about the gift and laying blame at her son’s feet for creating a
deception that avoided dealing with her marital problems. She goes to the beach
and has dinner by herself in a musical interlude that, unlike the rest of the
film, is devoid of dialogue, as Nettie finds time away from family too seek
peace finally just for herself.
John is distraught that his wife
has been missing for twelve hours. He paces as Timmy sits inebriated on the
couch. John frets about the situation while Timmy talks about the past. There
is no communication between them still, as the father does not respond to his
son’s references about the family. When Timmy presses his father about what
happened between him and his wife, he says, “Stop pushing, or I’ll tell you.”
He finally says, “The humping I’m getting isn’t worth the humping I’m getting.”
Timmy’s reaction to his father’s ugly, crude response is to call him a pig. He
wanted honesty, but sometimes the truth can be brutal. When Nettie returns, she
utters the line I mentioned at the beginning of the post about not being
believed as to where she has been and what she has been doing. Timmy gives her a
story to say about going down town, walking around, and seeing a movie. Nettie
adopts the tale because she doesn’t believe that John can understand the truth
about her journey out of the home. When she is alone with John she says that
she left after she and Timmy had a fight, which surprises John. He is startled
when she reveals the truth that Timmy said that the two of them should stop
ganging up on his father, and that he thinks John is quite a guy. She also says
that the twelve hours away were “the only real freedom I ever had.” She was
free of her family’s needs, her self-enforced abstinence from self-fulfillment.
When Timmy asks her why she came back, she say, “I’m a coward.” Nettie, like
most of us, are not so bold as to permanently throw off the responsibilities
that bind us, but which also provide us with order, security, and familiarity
That night, Timmy joins his mother
on the roof (a place outside of the apartment where truth is not confronted,
and a place above the confusion caused by selfishness and conflict). Nettie now
is devoid of guile as she admits that a baker she knew when she was younger couldn’t
give her the things his father could. John was full of promise, but the stock
market crash in 1929 changed him. She now can admit that her husband was great with
others in impersonal situations, in bars, meeting people, but emotionally he
was not good in the intimacy of a home. The baker, who would get tongue-tied in
public, “would have been beautiful in the home.” Nettie has confronted the true
reality of her life. She also understands that Timmy will be leaving them. The next
morning Timmy tells his dad that he will be moving out that day. The father
tries to persuade him to stay, saying he can have full independence when it
comes to religion and women. Timmy says that if he doesn’t leave now, he’ll
stay forever, and that would mean that he will never be his own person.
The family has breakfast, and Timmy
capitulates and says that he will stay. John says he can’t, he has painters
coming in to paint his room, and he can’t reschedule. Again it is not the
truth, but this time they all know it is just an unselfish act to give the son
the enduring freedom the parents did not have. Earlier Timmy said that before
his service he blamed his dad for what was wrong with their family. When he
returned, he blamed his mother. He says now he realizes no one is to blame, not
even himself. Blaming others is just a way to avoid the truth about our
problems. Truth leads to understanding and the trust of others needed to
overcome those problems.
The next movie is All the President's Men.
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